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Tuesday, February 17, 2015

Ingredients for Parenting + Giveaway

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Parenting is hard. There are days when I want to lock myself in the bathroom and have a good cry. Those are the days when I find myself turning to God. You see, God made me an imperfect mom. He made you imperfect also. The sooner we learn that, the easier parenting becomes. After reading Mothering from Scratch I came up with some parenting tips. Some of these tips may work for you, some may not. You can take the ingredients you need, discard what you don't, and even add your own.

Investing time with your child is an essential ingredient.  As parents, we get so caught up in our to do list that we forget the little things. When my girls were little I lived by a very simple rule. Whenever they asked me to play, I had to stop what I was doing and play with them. I've let this slide over the last few years. I regret it! I'm not saying to sit there all day. Just take 10 minutes when they ask, to give your child 100% of your attention. I'm going to start making this a habit again in my life.

No is such a wonderful word. We as moms need to know our limits. When we start getting tired emotionally and physically we become grumpy parents. When we become grumpy we become parents that we don't want to be, like a mom that is short tempered and snippy. Say no. Temporary disappointment works better in the long run than behavior that you will regret.

God is essential for mothering. He is our role model. In fact, he entrusted us with this job. He even wants us to lean on him, when we have rough days and in those sweet moments. Making him part of all of our "moments" and teaching our child to do the same gives us a wonderful support system.

Rewarding your child when they do something kind is just as important as disciplining them. When I catch my girls doing something sweet for each other it melts my heart. I make sure that I make a big ordeal, so they want to repeat the kindness.

Evaluate your relationships with your children. Talk to them, find out how they are feeling, and what they need from you. One child may need quite a bit more attention than another. Their needs could be dependent on the season of life they are in. I know that an insecure teenager might demand a lot more attention than your happy go lucky 8 year old.

Develop boundaries in your life. Kids love to push every button they can. Boundaries can be exceeded every single day. I have one child that loves to push my limits. She has impulse disorder and has problems controlling her mouth. Make sure when you give your answer you stick with it. Kids will pounce all over you if they know you will give in.

Indulge in taking care of yourself. Make sure you make time daily for yourself. It could only be a few minutes. I know the 15 or 20 minutes I spend meditating over scripture really helps keep me centered on the important things in life.

Everyone has bad days. Yes, no one has a perfect life. Life is imperfect. The sooner we let go of that notion of perfection the better off we are. If you have had a horrid day parenting look for a silver lining. I bet you will find one for each and every day. God gives us gifts daily.

Nourish your kids lives with positive influences. It could be someone in the family, God, a fellow church member, or even a neighbor. Healthy relationships help a child grow and give them a great example to look up to. 

Teach your child. You are their first teacher. Set positive examples when possible. When you see a great lesson, make a point of it. Much of the time we think our kids aren't paying attention, but you will be surprised that they usually know everything that is going on.

Seek advice from the bible, friends, and family. People love to give advice. Sometimes their wisdom is priceless. It's something God sent!

You can learn many great parenting tips from Mothering From Scratch, written by Melinda Means & Kathy Helgemo. They're two mommy bloggers, just like we are.  Click here to purchase your copy from Family Christian. It's a great gift for all moms.

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Which of these parenting tips do you like best? Any tips to add?